Vulnerability = Happiness

Everyone is vulnerable at times, it's not our favorite moments but they're real. Showing our vulnerable side to others is something we generally shy away from. We prefer to project our strength and confidence, naturally. In relationships, people are even more careful with their vulnerability. To someone they're in love with, they want the other to stay in love and some think showing vulnerability could hurt the relationship.

When we first fall in love, our vulnerability is easily hidden, as we're saturated with feelings of happiness. After time has passed, we feel comfortable and our vulnerabilities may show. The person showing is saying: "I love you enough to let you into all of my world, not just my 'perfect' parts. Yes, I am the strong and confident person you know, but sometimes I feel blue." The partner on the receiving end, can take the other in their arms and say, "I love you just the way you are and I'm here to support you." When this happens, the truly special people in our world shine through.

If it goes the other way and the partner starts to pull away because of it and eventually leaves, it's a blessing in disguise. The person who left is saying, "I'm trying to hide my vulnerabilities, you showing me yours isn't helping me hide them, I need to stay 'strong,' so I have to go." The person who is left in the dust did not show weakness, they showed strength. It's healthy to feel blue, it's human. It's even more healthy, to turn to your most dearest for support. There are people who are "up people" and get "down" sometimes and there "down people" who get "up" sometimes. Unless you're a sociopath and have no emotion (read: robot), being an "up" person who gets down sometimes, is a happy, healthy person.

*Have a wonderful most fabulous weekend*

xo Fabiola Conrado. #flowers, #beauty, #beautifulthings, #love, #peace, #happiness

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